Sex abuse or abuse of sex
Today while I was skimming through the morning newspaper, I came across an article concerning the impending legislation, which makes it mandatory for every organisation with a strength of more than 50 employees to establish a committee for addressing Sex Abuse. This committee must be headed by a woman and should have at least one external expert. This is a new move proposed for improvising the condition of working woman and to protect her from marauding scavengers. Have we degraded so much that in a country where woman are worshipped and are called with a suffix "devi" after their name, we need to pass strict legislation to secure them against hungry wolves at their workplace? Is the condition really this pathetic or is this just a ploy by corrupt demagogues to appease woman to gain a huge share of votes from working woman?
Have we considered the fact that such moves seriously injure the camaraderie of a workplace? It coerces every developing organisation to add additional redundant committees to its structure, along with the redundant unproductive expense of an external expert. Have we pondered about the deleterious effects of such a move? Can we not find some easier alternative to address and restrain a few lascivious and licentious fellows? Some of the woman organisations are also demanding that the decisions of such a committe should be binding on the management. Can some ambitious woman not abuse such priviledges to settle her personal scores with innocent co-workers? I am sure bollywood movies like "Aitraaz" foretell us the possibility of such sly moves.
I do not deny that with the increasing number of cases of misbehavior with woman, we need to ponder over the matter seriously. But, instead of legislation, I think this can be better dealt with moral education. Our Indian culture and our values set enough guidelines, which if followed ensure a morally uplifted society. We need to develop respect for woman, we do not need to give them any reservation or priviledge. But, to gain this respect, woman too will need to shun flimsy decollete and short skirts. Mind it, at times your enticing attire too can be a source of potent danger. Do not forget that Woman is a symbol of strength and power in our Hindu mythology, we must not consider them as weak and feeble. Just offer them equal stature and an equal platform, I am sure they will contribute equally to the development of the society in material, social and economic realms.
posted by Unknown at 12:42 PM
14 Comments:
Well Kapil,
If u think that women are as powerful as men,then they should have rights( and Guts!) to wear anything they want, and thus there is no need of refraining from Short skirts or any such stuff.And u as a citizen don't have the right to ask them to refrain from anything.
But if u consider women as the weaker sex,which needs to be protected by men(from men), then u r right in orderin them what to wear and what not.
Good Luck
Deepak
Hi Modi,
After a long time i just wandered through your blog and came to a topic which i do not have any content in it. At places it sounds very vauge ( sorry abt spelling ) like is the condition so pathetic. I mean there is no point of asking questions if you dont have a better suggestion. About being headed by a women, the idea surely has political motivations, but it's not bad decision considering the fact that majority of harrassment offence are against women and the society at least in india considers women as the weaker sex. As far is law is concerned, there should not be any loopholes in it, leaving someone decide who is the 'devi' and should have been worshiped. If everybody would have followed indian culture you would be in jungle till 25. Btw indian culture/books gives enough examples of harrassment. I guess you heard about draupadi. There are numerous other cases which shows that the devi's raped, humilated. Finaly wearing a sari doesnot increases the respect for women. Men will be men and it cannot be helped unless you have laws like saudi arab in place. ( Hand cut of for stealing and you know what for what). Women are symbols of power, dont make me laugh.
Any way, i failed to understand why you were writing abt women power with such a chauvinistic view. I guess you should give a little thought before saying something.
mithun
Abe Tu Blog Likhna band kar aur padhai kar CAT ka.....
Well Kapil, the issue is quite old, but also new in your blog. It is not the Indians neither the Indian Culture to be blamed upon. I think it is a global problem, as Mithun rightly pointed out "men will be men", and that is true in any part of the world. Even in developed nations, this is a critical problem. In India, it is more acute. The possible reasons which I find are deep-rooted in our social norms.
Indians are "sex-starved".
We attach taboo with the watching or reading of so-called "obscene" materials. Even, I know of some cases where the mother-in-law shares same bed with the newly-wed couple at night. Aren't these ridiculous? If you go through the Indian Mythology, you are sure to find the open-sex community where almost everybody had equal 'rights' to have sex with the person of his/her choice. And apart from those sporadic events like "Draupadi" we rarely know of rape cases in ancient India. Think of Lord Krishna, hiding clothes of "gopini"-s. We never consider those acts as heinous, rather tag the as "leela". I firmly believe the present rigidity in the soceity is a direct effect of the medieval Muslim reign on India. Only if we change our attitude, I think we can reduce these unfortunate cases.
Carry on with ur blogs!
Arnab
Thanks to everyone for your comments and keen observation. But, I duly disagree with mithun and arnab that "men will be men" ... sex abuse is the weapon of cowards and is no means to display your virility. And, please do not accuse Lord Krishna, it really aches me.
Regarding Women being the symbol of strength and power in our Hindu mythology, i would beg to state that it is more a historical concession, a show of condenscension and an offering of lip-service and worse, a mockery of their weakness, than actual respect.
No society has been able to enjoin morality upon its members. And if go by the precursors, no moral education can ever uplift a society.
And regarding, wearing "decolletes" and stuff, it would be wiser to see the statistics and realise that it is not that only women in decolletes get ravaged ;on the contrary, it is the simply-clad meek ones who are. A simply case in point would be the front page, right-hand-corner column of TOI,27th September.
Another solution would be to provide armoured vehicles for women to move about. In that case, she can never be touched even if she decides to make it to the office stark naked. Imposition of such rules show a pathetic lack of information, i am sorry to say that.
And mind you,if woman was a symbol of power , what is "Sati" and "girl child foeticide" ?
A man who invokes his own morals to respect a woman can only make a travesty of these values.
Respect is matter of an altogether different class of complexity.
Regards
Dhurandhar
I think Pani and all are missing the point, I wanted to raise here. Legislation is no solution towards woman emancipation. And, at least a conservative like me, will not like to work in an office where woman go "stark naked".
Abe tu khudko conservative bulata hai....aur France-ki bandiyon ki saath photo khinch ke humlog ko bejha tha....jo ki near-to-"stark naked"
u shud answer abt d snap too-d question raised by philotics.
I think my dear Kapil, you have enough now. I do not have much time to teach you a long lesson. I will just say that please write what you think, what you feel, what you see when you close your eyes and what you are!!!
I really admire your good writing skills, in fact I always appreciated it but do not write what you can't argue. Well, there are just too many things to say but probably later. And yes, do not be prejudiced while writing!!!
PH
P.S. I did not check the spelling mistakes.
To PH, I am sure I can argue my case here. I am not prejudiced , it is only my view of the world.
Next, to Philotics, none of the woman, I was with were stark naked, please change ur spectacles.
More later, may be in next post.
Yes my dear Kapil, you can't argue. Because to argue, you should have a open and fresh mind not a spoiled and diseased one!!! Because to argue, you must forget your culture, your religion, your foolish beliefs and think of yourself as a pristine flower who was never influenced or forced by any person, family, society or any experience to believe what is illogical and rubbish. Family teaches us many things, right or wrong, but never teaches that things can be viewed differently, that you can have your own perception of any thing, that you are unique in this world and so can have unique ideas no matter if they are bizzare for any damn person or if the society sees it as a taboo. It's you so allow your inner-self to come out and we all will accept it with a smile. Instead, family gave us a belief, a psychology to adopt and to adapt with it. So you see, all these years you were always influenced in taking decisions, adopting beliefs (one of your horrible belief is that the "gays and lesbians" are not human beings and so can't be a part of this society; I see their condition much more horrendous and painful than the women!!!), expressing or imposing your views. Hence, I proved that you are prejudiced!!!
I know you, you are my friend so I have the right to ask for a small request. Please do not give these taboos or illogical beliefs to your children, neither genetically nor environmentally. You are a scientific man, you should try solve problems logically based on reasons not on beliefs. You are a reasonable man, do not get influenced
by a bunch of conservatives.
By the way to be more open, I would say that none of the woman was stark naked but you saw them, you felt them stark naked. You always treated them like sirens and they always proved to you like femmes fatales!!! So you see, it's you, it's your inner self, it's what we want, total transparent. It's what we want to see, to feel when we read your blogs. Well, enough of lecture, now I must go and buy a sandwich for lunch.
PH
Hey PH, nice views. I agree that your have a nice way to reason, and I am a reasonable man (remember THE GODFATHER, just joking). But, read ur comment again and you will agree that there are fallacies in your argument, and your comments stand for sophistry. Regards my children, I think for anyone, just give them the facts, the tools to interpret the facts (education and not only bookish one) and the last thing that is needed is a lattitude to form your interpretations, because when you are unique, why should not your interpretations be so??
Really gud and quite innovative.
can u imagine , who am i?
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